"The too-nice guy"

I find this concept idiotic.

I was watching TV (yes, again) and on some dating show the matchmaker was constantly telling the guy that he was too nice.

What does "too nice" even mean? Don't (or at least shouldn't) we all strive to be nice, caring, warm, and loving people? Is it possible to be too nice?

Firstly, let me clearly state that in my opinion, there is a vast difference between "nice" and "door mat". Rushing to your girlfriend's house to bring her some soup because she is sick is nice. Rushing to her house to bring her the dry cleaning she told you to pick up before 5 pm so she could wear her fancy new dress out to the party (that you are not invited to) at her ex boyfriend's house, is being a door mat. Scenario number two is not an example of the boyfriend being too nice, it is an example of him being naive, and a little pathetic.

So, making this distinction, how can one define "Too nice"? Let's explore some options...

-Too willing to help a friend in a time of need?
-Too willing to invite the new girl in the office to join her group for lunch?
-Too willing to adopt a rescued puppy?
-Too willing to help an old lady carry her groceries to the car?

Maybe I'm blinded by the fact that I am so fond of nice people, but the whole concept seems preposterous. Perhaps we should explore some options of what people may interpret as too nice, but is actually something else entirely...

-Smiling way too much...creepy
-Laughing way too often...nervous
-Gives way too many gifts...insecure
-Offers to help you remodel your entire home for free...has too much time

Nope, really can't think of anything that is "too nice"
If you can, feel free to comment...

But why, oh why, do women "apparently" wish for a guy who is less nice? This concept baffles me. Oh, yes, there is the ever elusive "bad boy" who drives a motorcycle, smokes, drinks, treats you like a bag of garbage but his looks make you swoon. When I think of the amount of women in the world who actually look for this guy, it shocks me.

Why doesn't everyone want the nice guy? The guy who brings you flowers when your sad, or lets you cry on the phone for half an hour, just because you lost your ipod, and your brother is a jerk. The guy who makes you smile when he smiles, and cries with you because she shares your pain. This is the guy that I have, but for the record, he also drives a motorcycle, and is totally gor-ge-ous....

so ha.